Exercise: Making it Work and Not Feeling Bad about It

Typically at 7:00am I throw on a workout and go at it for 30 minutes. Without fail every time I am exercising I have two thoughts running through my head.

A. Am I being Selfish?

B. Moms can totally get a workout in every day if they wanted to.

So, first let’s get to me feeling guilty about working out. While I am working out Wyatt is awake, so I am not engaging in his play time unless he asks, and even when he does I tell him, “Mom is exercising, I can read with you after,” (woof, I always feel bad putting off a book).  To be honest though, I stopped working out when he sleeps because I felt that was precious time when I could be doing something he wouldn’t normally let me do, like a more than 30 second shower or do something on the computer (he climbs onto my lap and touches EVERYTHING). So, now I workout in the morning while Wyatt is awake. I have to stop for a few moments when he tells me he is hungry, or when my workout takes me to the floor and Wyatt decides he wants to take a nap on me or use me as a highway for his cars. In the past I would quickly take him off and tell him I need to finish, but now I just give it a few minutes. Why? Because workouts are going to be imperfect. Plus, how long is his desire to cuddle on me going to last? A couple more years? And let’s face it, I am not working out for a competition. I am working out because it makes me feel good and it is one thing I can pretty much say I have completed every day (because I NEED to feel like I accomplished something everyday in its entirety). I don’t need a super sweaty/perfect 30 minutes workout. I need a smart workout that hits the spots.  To make sure I get this done everyday, it is something I need to figure out how to incorporate into my life when Wyatt is awake. So, am I being selfish? No, I am being smart with my time. Wyatt doesn’t need my constant attention and I personally think this gets him to understand sometimes he just needs to entertain himself. Plus, a finished workout makes me happy. 

So, after I am done justifying why I am not being selfish, I always get to thinking about how really any mom can get this done. Yes, it’s definitely harder if you have a full-time job, or if your kid craves constant attention, but again, we can all come up with various excuses why it is hard or why we don’t have time (I mean I do this for a number of other things in my life). But, if you are willing to have a workout that is going to be interrupted every so often in the beginning, I am sure it can turn into an almost complete workout eventually. It is all just about being realistic with what your life is now. When I first started I had to stop a lot because Wyatt always wanted something or would get himself into a pickle (I started this when he was 7 months and was beginning to pull himself up/walk). Now in the morning I say, “Wyatt, what times is it?” and he says something that sounds like “exercise”. He then points to where my mat is tucked away behind the couch and when I roll it out he likes to run across it or bring some trucks. His interest fades quickly, so by the time I actually need the mat, I can push the trucks to the side. So really after some time I have been able to, “train”, Wyatt into understanding that exercise for Mom is part of the morning routine and so he plays on his own. Make no mistake, there are have been only a handful of perfect 30 minute workouts. If he is cranky, which he is 4 out of 7 days, I will setup a breakfast snack which includes some fruit or his chia bowl, or I will throw on some PBS and chat to him about what he is watching (since my workout is taking place in the kitchen/living room anyway). I know society toots that workouts should be a “me” time activity so you can be mindful of your workout, but let’s face it, “me time" is a precious commodity. Working out is honestly something that just needs to get done. Save the "me time" for something that is actually fun, like drinks with a girl friend, or a getting your nails done, or a solo trip to the coffee shop to read a book. Don't glorify exercising...its not that awesome. Just incorporate exercise into your daily family time.  Again, unless you are training  Let exercise be something your kids get into or simply have it be something they understand is part of a daily schedule. And you might feel guilty you are not engaging with you kids, but guess what, chances are that half hour you wouldn’t have been engaging with them the whole time anyway. You would be cleaning, or puttering around, or scrolling through Instagram, or something else that really could wait. Plus, exercise is the easiest thing for us to say, "no", to. You aren’t going to say “no” to a pile of dirty dishes, or a full laundry hamper that has all your underwear in it. Those things you “have” to do, save for the end of the day because you know you will get it done no matter what.

 Because a bent leg turns into the best bridge

Because a bent leg turns into the best bridge

So be flexible. Literally and figuratively. Adjust. Make it work. Exercising isn't really fun (maybe if you are comparing it to cleaning your bathroom). But fitting into your clothes and feeling good in them is really nice. Plus, you can eat a treat every so often and not even feel guilty about it. Just make it happen Mama. You will feel so much better. Promise. 

Day 2 of the 21 Day Fix got me feeling like a Gazelle

So today is obviously Day 3, but I have included a review and approximate calories below of what I had yesterday. I am probably going to have something similar over the next few days so I won't bore you with my eating habits. But, I will tell you I have wanted to quit at least 10 times today. I ate breakfast at 8:30am and it's hitting 11:00am now and I am starving!! I just made some tea and I ate three cashews (I normally would eat a toast of some sort, or a fruit something if I wasn't tracking my consumption). But, the plus side was today I definitely felt like a gazelle getting out of bed. Not like weight wise (although that has dropped already), but like this weird airy (not gassy) feeling.

Here's to hoping I stick this out for 21 days....but my first goal is to get through 7 days. The weekend will be the big test. I am already scheming how to get those pancakes on my plate. Andrew and I had quinoa pancakes this past week (exactly as boring as they sound), and so with the right amount of fruit, it should settle any cravings or fomo. 

BREAKFAST

1/3 cup Oatmeal in water, 1/2 frozen berries & 1 teaspoon peanut butter (164 calories)

LUNCH

I ended up making 5 veggie patties, and I ate two. So it averaged out to roughly 1/2 cup of pinto beans, 1/3 cup quinoa, 2/5 cup of carrots and sauteed red onion & broccoli, which was cooked in 2/5 tsp of coconut oil. I had these on a bed of spinach (1 cup) with 3 slices of eggplant and 2 cherry tomatoes. The dressing was just balsamic vinegar and mustard. (315 calories)

DINNER 1

House Salad from the Good Bite Kitchen. 1 1/2 cups of spring mix, 1/2 cup of roasted red peppers 1/4 cup of chick peas, avocado & pine nuts with 2 tsp of Maple Vinaigrette (260 calories)

DINNER 2

1/2 cup of quinoa. 1/2 cup of chickpea pasta. Oven roasted a cup of cauliflower, 1/4 cup of tofu and 1/4 of sweet potato with some spices. Added a red wine vinegar and mustard sauce. (421 calories)

Note: These sauces I am adding are just to get some extra flavor since salt is a no no. Everything I cook normally has salt...plus Andrew loves his salt so it gets added double time. Himalayan Pink Sea Salt if you are wondering. 

SNACK

1/2 small grapefruit (52 calories)

BEVERAGES

  • 2 8oz of coffee with 1 tsp honey (45 calories)
  • 3 cups of Tea
  • 8 cups of water

 

Review of Day 1 of the 21 Day Fix

Okay, so day 1 is over....

In order to have zero chances for an excuse to not be able to get in a workout, I am going to try to do them first thing in the morning. Typically Wyatt can keep himself occupied, and I can re-direct him to playing on his own. So, by 7:00 am I had the workout streaming on my phone and was done by 7:40 am. A couple of interruptions with a snack request, asking to read some books and climbing on me while doing abs was what added on the extra 10 minutes. 

So this is what I ate:

BREAKFAST:

1/2 cup cooked oatmeal in water, 1/2 cup of frozen berries & 1 teaspoon of peanut butter.

 I stared at my pitiful bowl and was done in no time. I felt sad and gypped...especially because Wyatt ate an entire Chia Bowl, which used to be half mine!

Drank a cup (8oz) coffee with a teaspoon of honey...which according to the book is okay. Also drank a cup of echinacea tea. 

LUNCH:

1/2 cup cooked quinoa, 2 cups of a mix of steamed broccoli, carrots & beets, 1 cup spinach & 1 cup of pinto beans, plus a dressing that consisted of mustard, lemon juice and balsamic vinaigrette.

  Surprisingly this was a bigger bowl than I initially expected when I measured out that first bit of quinoa. 

Surprisingly this was a bigger bowl than I initially expected when I measured out that first bit of quinoa. 

SNACK: 3 cashews (laugh...I did...so sad and should not even be considered a snack)

Drank 1/2 of my second 8oz cup of coffee with a teaspoon of honey. 

DINNER:

1 cup of steamed Kale, 1 cup of tofu cooked with chopped garlic, some spices and on 1/2 teaspoon of coconut oil, plus 1/2 cup of steamed sweet potatoes. I then still needed some more veggies so I added some yellow bell peppers and 1/3 cup of avocado and some hot sauce.

The first part of this recipe is what was actually Andrews Birthday dinner, but I get to use Shoyu sauce, which gives it some salty flavor and I pan fry the sweet potatoes to get them a little crispy. If I had to do it again for me, I would add a mustard sauce when cooking the tofu to add on some flavor. 

Snack: 1/2 small grapefruit & Herbal Tea

HOW DO I FEEL:

How do I feel? Like I should have dropped 10 pounds. No, just kidding I feel fine. I wasn't starving but I wasn't full. I was fine (like when a girl says she's fine but she really wants to eat 100 more things because it looks so good kind of fine). To be honest what I was pleasantly surprised about is that I could still spend my time cooking pretty much like I normally would. I had mentioned to Andrew that was what I would miss and I would be bored not being able to do so. I think I got so wrapped up in the pictures of everyone meal prepping the same food everyday that I thought that would be me. But, being a SAHM, I can cook whatever I want. I know you might say it saves time to meal prep and do other stuff, but Cooking is my therapy, so, I don't want to do other stuff. What was annoying was that it took me longer than normal to make food because I kept having to whip out the measuring spoons so I knew how much I could eat.

Do I have more energy? I wouldn't even know how to measure that. I believe you have the energy you create. You want to be lazy and nap and relax, you do that. You want to get stuff done, you do it. Its all in our head. Well, actually let me rephrase that. For ME personally I can't measure it because all I have done is eat less. I still eat healthy. If an individual eats junk and then adjusts to eat healthy, yes you probably have more energy. Whether you feed yourself mental or actual garbage, you are going to not want to do stuff and feel blah. That is science.....and the honest truth. 

 

RESET

So we are 22 days into the New Year and nothing has really gone as planned.

First Andrew started off the New Year with a 36 hour bug/flu thing. Which he graciously gave to me. No worries, Wyatt is apparently healthy as an Ox and he got away scot-free. Thank goodness!

Shortly after getting over the flu, I was running after Andrew and boom, I jammed my toe. But this wasn't your regular, "break your toes kind of feeling but nothing is really broken kind of jam".  No, the next morning I couldn't set my foot down to put pressure, so after taping some toes together and an ibuprofen, I hopped around the house and then watched as my toe became black and blue. That took care of my dreams to work out and made me slightly miserable. Yeay! 

So into week three of the new year and I went to the dentist where I got a couple fillings put in. The next day, an ache in my tooth settled in on my other side. This pain came once or twice before, but during my pregnancy. Of course I couldn't take medicine then, so instead I endured the mind numbing pain and didn't sleep, but it was traumatizing (I would say worse than 39 hours of labor, but Andrew thinks I blacked out and that I don't really know what I am talking about). This time I took medicine, but it really isn't working to its full capacity, so I believe a root canal is in the future. Oh, and I have cold, that irritates my throat and the ear on the side of the pain, so it's been hunky-dory. 

ANYWAYS. Starting week four and we have pressed reset. Because really, you can press re-set whenever you want. So in no particular order or importance, my goals are:

  1. Heading to bed at 9:30pm, with lights out at 10:00pm.
  2. Starting the 21 Day Fix Beach body program again, but this time actually following the food rules. 
  3. Spending an hour each evening on some watercolor work.
  4. Getting our ideas folder for the renovation together so Andrew knows what to set where. 
  5. Plan a vacation. 
  6. Get Wyatt to expand his eating palate and actually keep track of some of his recipes.
  7. No face picking. 

Okay. That's all for now. Nothing crazy, but you know setting and writing these goals just has me feeling all kinds of ready to tackle the year.

I have been most eager/hesitant about the 21 Day Fix Beachbody food program. I am fine with keeping to the workout, which I have done already a few times over, but never the food. I hate limiting my food intake. I already did a conscious portion control on my own since I have always had a tendency to over eat. But I know my portions are still at least double what they, "should" be, if I am expecting for any weight/body mass loss. Do I feel I need to lose it? Honestly, yes and no. Yes, because I know I overeat, which means I do add more to my body than it probably (definitely) needs. But then no I don't feel I need to, because I know even though I over eat, I am still not putting garbage in my mouth. Except when I go on vacation. Then I am capable (meaning I just did it on my last vacation), eat 12 cupcakes in 9 days, and that's not counting the vegan donuts or chocolate bars. Vegan or not, even I know I was being a glutton. So, I have challenged myself to stick to it. Day 1 almost complete and I am rewarding myself with a banana cream pie when I am done. Haven't decided if that is breakfast, lunch and dinner or just dessert.  Andrew is probably shaking his head, but hey, I need to know I am working towards something.

Since I know you want to know what I will be eating over these next few weeks. I will keep track. Or try to at least. 

O and here are some pictures. None if it has to do with what I just wrote about. And no I have no photographic evidence of my cupcakes, donuts, junk binge (even though I wish I did because it was so good....says the old me...like yesterday me). Happy 2018!

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